An introvert in the world of extroverts - Introvert Whisperer

Introvert Whisperer / An introvert in the world of extroverts - Introvert Whisperer An introvert in the world of extroverts Some people cannot live without communication and new impressions. There is no worse punishment for them than to stay on their own for long. They need constant stimulation from the outside, so they could feel energetic and cheered up. They would prefer to go to a party after a long hard working day than to stay home reading a book. They make friends easily, make decisions fast and start acting straight away. Those are typical extraverts. These days many people believe that such a behavioral pattern allows us to achieve success and recognition. Qualities of an extrovert are essential in the most different spheres, for example in business focused on teamwork or sales. Usually, communicative people are more friendly, confident and useful. Sometimes, it seems that there is just no place for introverts in a contemporary world. Does it mean that there is something wrong with calm, thoughtful, loving, being on their introverts? Moreover, do they need to break themselves down,just to stay in tune with the requirements of our crazy world? Of course not. If there were extraverts only, there would not be the law of gravitation by Isaak Newton, relativity theory by Albert Einstein, nocturnes of Frederick Chopin, «1984 » written by George Orwell, «Schindlers List » By Steven Spielberg, «Harry Potter » by Joan Rolling, «Sunflowers » by Vincent Van Gogh. We all need to get rid of biased attitude to introversion Do not confuse introversion with shyness: sometimes extraverts possess this quality too. A shy person is afraid of making a wrong impression. Introvert, though, feel tired of distractions such as noise, talks, and rush. The critical difference between introverts and extroverts is that each of them feels excited about what the other is irritated. To be happy and balanced, one requires full access to one`s thoughts, feelings, and senses.   While extravert takes energy from the world.   A person is just happy when many people are around, and things are humming. Despite all the prejudices, introverts may be no less confident, friendly, curious and successful than extroverts. They need more silence, peace, and privacy. Choose what fits you Accept yourself just the way you are. Stop worrying about something, declining a proposal for lunch in favor of a good book. If you enjoy dining in a restaurant on your own, do not be shy. Moreover, of course, there is nothing wrong about you to prefer good conversations with your best friend than noisy parties. Spend your leisure as you think best, but not as others think. Stay home for Christmas, if it brings you joy. Miss pointless meetings. Pass over the other side of a street, to skip out an idle talking to someone you know and meet by accident. For introvert just like for any other person, mutual understanding is significant, but one should seek for quality, not quantity. A small circle of friends if enough to be happy. Value your close people, take care of them. Work with those co-workers, you like and respect. Look for those you feel right about among your new acquaintances. Moreover, do not make yourself talk with the rest. Try to find a fascinating, inspiring work, where your strong points will be in handy: insistence, thoughtfulness, concentration, keenness, and sensibility. If extraverts, as a rule, are leaders in the public sphere, introverts are more often than not achieving success in theoretic and esthetical kinds of activity. It is impossible to get some good results without being on one`s own in some areas (for example, art or science). A home office is a perfect option for an introvert. If you have to work in a team, think how to cut it fine all the noise distracting you from important tasks. Perhaps, you will make it and agree with your chief about a private room or work on projects, which do not require teamwork. When you can put a mask of extravert on Genes, brain and nervous system define a significant part of our personality. Nevertheless, we can come to terms with an environment and up to a certain degree extend the boundaries of your opportunities. No introvert can become an extrovert. At that, almost everyone can keep small talks, perform in public, contact with unknown people, be calm during meetings. Some introverts manage to hide their true self for years. Of course, one should not do it. In many cases, it is better to stay within one`s comfort zone. However, sometimes circumstances make us adapt to the world of extroverts. When there are no other options, you may pretend to be more active and communicative. However, it is for some time only. You do not have to wear a mask of an extrovert to live up to someone`s expectations. However, one can put it on for some time in the name of significant personal projects, for the sake of work, which you consider truly important, let alone for people you love or everything, you highly appreciate. The main thing is to apply this method within reason and does not forget about your real needs. If you do what does not look like you, for the sake of the leading personal projects, there is no need to suppress your nature too much or too long. Not to burn out, try to create «niche for rejuvenation » in your everyday life. It may be instead, where you go, to be yourself (for example, the nearest park), or space of time (let us say, short break between business calls). Agree with extraverts Quite often when introverts get married or become friends with extroverts. It is hard to understand needs of each other in such a coalition: one out of spouse wants to party, while the other one wants to spend time together; one dreams of going out at weekends, while the other is totally fine with sitting on a cozy sofa, a favorite book and  family table games. There is no point to talk, which option is better. What fits introvert might be tiresome and boring for an extrovert. The only way of coexistence is to conduct an agreement according to which each of the spouses gets what s/he needs. For instance, you can arrange to go out half of the time, while spending at home the other half. The agreement works if you come over your best friend for a hen night, and she accepts the fact of you being not there during three days on the eve of the wedding with understanding. Discuss the rules with your close people, who tend to extraversion, to protect you and them from conflicts, and silly insults let alone  misunderstanding in the future. Agree with yourself In some cases, it is useful to agree with yourself. For example, if you live on your own, but you want to find your single one, you will have to make yourself visit public events. It makes sense to decide in advance, how often you can go out,  once a week, a month or quarter. As soon as quota is complete, you will get a right to stay home, without being stung by remorse. On the other hand, you dream of creating a company of your own and work from home. In this case, you need to spend some time on  setting business relations. Make such an agreement with yourself: once a week you will visit some event and  make one useful acquaintance. Apart from that, you can relax and live at your convenience. How to bring up an introvert-kid If your child prefers silence instead of noisy games with someone of the same age, s/he is an introvert for sure. Moreover, of course, you  need to help your kid to cope with  rumbling external world. Do not try to fill in all the free time of your kid with some make-up classes and  do not make to communicate with those, whom they do not like. S/he feels difficulties with living through a school day already. Have no objections, if your child feels like staying home or leaving a birthday party a bit earlier than the rest of kids. Explain an introvert-child why s/he feels tension hanging out together with others. Let him understand, that his worries are natural. Think about how often s/he should meet friends and what time the best is. Develop and discuss strategies, which will help to keep calm and energy during a day. Introverts always turn out to be in uncomfortable situations at school, which is why they cannot show their abilities to the extent. Be sympathetic and  begin to spend more time working at home. Alternatively, think about an opportunity to switch to homeschooling. In general introverts, there are one or two serious interests (for example, drawing, designing or story writing), which their peers do not always share. Applaud your child for what s/he does, encourage and  help to find like-minded people. Some participation in teamwork will benefit. However, this has to be a small group’s work (of 2-3 people). Make the best of your child to learn necessary communication skills, to learn to perceive new situations and new people in a calm way, but as for the rest, allow being yourself and do not try to release from introversion by any means. Be happy with his original thinking. Be proud of the strength of his conscience and loyalty for friends.   And be sincere appraising him when he achieves success in his favorite things to do. About the author: Melisa Marzett is more introvert by nature. She does like communication and exchanging experience with other people especially of different cultures, but if to ask her what she prefers, to go for a party or to spend an evening at home reading some interesting book, she would go for the latter. She works for Resume Perk Writing Service â€" Perfect Writers and writes Bottom-line â€" I want to help you accelerate your career â€" to achieve what you want by connecting you with your Free Instant Access to my 4 Building Blocks to Relationships eBookâ€" the backbone to your Networking success and fantastic work relationships.  Grab yours by visiting here right now! Brought to you by Dorothy Tannahill-Moran â€" dedicated to unleashing your professional potential. Introvert Whisperer